mental health · Self Improvement

Flexibility and Patience

Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.Allen Saunders I've backed myself into sort of a corner; I said last week that I would avoid writing about COVID-19 because I am, probably like you, absolutely sick of hearing about it. The unfortunate reality is that it is simply a part of… Continue reading Flexibility and Patience

personal · Self Improvement

The Necessity of Boundaries

“Intimacy is impossible without boundaries because if I don’t tell you what’s not okay for me, if I am afraid to say no, then I can’t actually be fully present. I can’t receive what you want to give me because I feel like I need to be dishonest or I have to betray myself in… Continue reading The Necessity of Boundaries

body positivity · mental health · Self Improvement

Happy New Year! Diet Culture Still Sucks!!

TW: discussion of eating disordersIn a sea of unavoidable "omg I'm gonna eat nothing but bananas and lose, like, so much weight!" posts during this time of year, let me be the light of common sense. Or at least some kind of rebellion against hating yourself so much that starving seems like a good idea.… Continue reading Happy New Year! Diet Culture Still Sucks!!

personal · Self Improvement

OMG IT’S THE END OF A DECADE *GUNSHOTS* *CASH REGISTER NOISE*

Listen, I am a woman who hoards data as if it's a competitive sport. My tendency to meander through old chat logs, screenshots, and Snap stories is unparalleled among anyone I know. It's been somewhat of a journey for me to learn how to let go of the past and just exist in the present.… Continue reading OMG IT’S THE END OF A DECADE *GUNSHOTS* *CASH REGISTER NOISE*

anxiety · bpd · mental health · Self Improvement

Mental Health Progress is Not a Straight Line

The past week has been... a ride. It reminded me that recovery is far from linear, and things might set you back, but all you can do is keep moving forward. One of the more notable things that has happened is my recent contact with my ex, Pisces. Our conversations have been cordial with some… Continue reading Mental Health Progress is Not a Straight Line

mental health · mindfulness · Self Improvement

Gratitude should come more than once a year

For my American readers, this week is home to my favorite holiday of them all: Thanksgiving. If you were unaware, my religious affiliation is vaguely Buddhist with a side of "I don't really care, God probably isn't real, but if that makes you happy that's cool". This is one of the major reasons Christmas isn't… Continue reading Gratitude should come more than once a year

Self Improvement

Discipline is Freedom (A Twofold Method)

"Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most."Abraham Lincoln These words should sound pretty familiar since I quoted it literally 10 days ago. They're worth repeated though because I really think that our 16th president really hit the nail on the head. When it comes to discipline, I have another… Continue reading Discipline is Freedom (A Twofold Method)

anxiety · buddhism · meditation · personal · Self Improvement

Six Months After My Silent Meditation Retreat

In February, I boarded a plane to Massachusetts and began a nearly week long silent retreat at the Insight Meditation Society. I was at the peak of my meditative practice at this point, sitting every day for usually thirty minutes. Of course, this was nowhere near the minimum eight hours a day I would spend… Continue reading Six Months After My Silent Meditation Retreat